There are many friendships that each individual goes through in their life period. Some are long, some are very short lived, and some are more complicated than imaginable. Every familiarity is different, but at the same time they are all the same. There are three categories that friendships can be sorted into: utility, pleasure, and goodness. Each friend can be described as at least one of these categories; sometimes it may be hard to tell, and other times it may be as clear as glass.
Forrest Gump gives an excellent example of each type of friendship, and shows how easy and hard it can be to choose which type it is. A friendship based on utility is not usually very close. More times than not, each person relies on the other for some sort of task that can be done for the other. Many situations occur where the two individuals know each other only because of the thing they can do for each other. The relationship between Forrest Gump and Bubba is a prime example of this type of association.
Forrest and Bubba knew each other through the military; they were both serving at the same period in time. Bubba was kind to Forrest and they became companions very quickly. They were so close, in fact, that they made plans to start a shrimp company as soon as their term of service was through. They didn’t get a chance to carry out this plan, however, because soon after, Bubba was killed in battle. The friendship was young, and, at the time, they didn’t need each other for anything but their work in the military.
The coalition could have grown into something more, but, because it was so short, it could not develop into anything greater, it remained only utility. The second type of friendship, pleasure, is based on the fun two people can have together, whether it’s laughing together or doing… other things, the main focus is on the good feeling each person gets whenever the two are together. Pleasure accords are usually short-lived and have no meaning. Jenny and Forrest had this type of bond. Forrest and Jenny were friends since elementary school, but she never really put forth much effort.
During childhood they were together quite a bit of the time, but her motives were to escape her father and have fun somewhere else but home. Later in life Jenny and Forrest drifted apart and seldom saw each other. Every time Forrest would go out of his way to see Jenny she acted as if she had much better things to do than waste her time with him. Still yet, a few years later Jenny showed up at Forrest’s house and asked to stay with him. That night, Jenny went into Forrest’s room and fornicated. The next morning she was gone, leaving Forrest tired and alone.
Pleasure was the main focus on Jenny’s relationship with Forrest. The third and final category of friendship is goodness. Goodness is the most perfect type of attachment. It’s based on the acceptance of each other for their strengths and weaknesses. These alliances last forever. Many years can go by and it will never be doubted. Lieutenant Dan and Forrest met shortly after Forrest met Bubba. He was the commanding officer of the platoon Forrest was on. In the same attack that Bubba loses his life, Lieutenant Dan loses his legs.
After Forrest’s service in the military, they meet again and Dan agrees to be the first mate on Forrest’s shrimp boat. Before that, Lieutenant Dan and Forrest spent New Year’s Eve together with a couple of prostitutes. Forrest pushed the girl he was with away and she called him stupid. Outraged at this statement, Dan kicked both of the girls out, essentially ruining his New Year’s Eve. Dan gave up a night with a woman for Forrest, which is something only a true friend would ever do. Association is different for each individual.
Two people can know each other for all of their lives and still have a different view on what their friendship really is and what it really means. Sometimes amity is hard to decipher, and other times the answer is plain and simple. The life of Forrest Gump has many prime examples of the numeracy of attractions and the difficulties that accompanies each one. Friendship can be forever or a few days, the connections are always different. Whether it is utility, pleasure, or goodness, the experience remains inevitable and indefinable.