Are you a boy who played with girls dolls as a child? Or vice versa, are you a girl who preferred to climb trees, get dirty and never take baths growing up? Usually, it has been shown one would have been called a sissy or a tomboy. What happens if these individuals never grow out of their gender crisis? They live their lives either as a cross dresser, or a transvestite. If they are homosexual some will go as far as to alter their genital appearance. There are those who disagree and say we are wired the way we are whether we want to be boys or girls. It all breaks down to how society sees the different sexes of people.
The idea of gender specifications are a learned behavior. Gender crossing nowadays is a complex issue to speak of. On the one hand you have young men wearing Scottish kilts and laughing about wearing womens garb, to athletes like Oscar De La Hoya who enjoy wearing full on womens lingering and stockings and claiming to save his career and reputation that the picture was photo shopped. Men and women alike, who wear the opposites sex clothes regularly, claim to, have grown up in the wrong bodies. Most of them are heterosexual and maintain healthy relationships with the opposite sex.
Aaron Devor states in his article ‘Becoming Members of Society’, that “Many cultures have more than two gender categories and accept the idea that, under certain circumstances, gender may be changed without changes being made to biological sex characteristics” (384). Therefore, someone may want to wear female clothes and lead a completely male lifestyle concerning work and relationships, especially of the sexual nature. There are those out there who claim that one’s gender is chosen even before they are born. They say that we are all wired to know what gender we are at birth.
Others pull religion into the mixture and say that God chooses what gender we are weather we have the chromosomes of a female and sport a full facial beard and a deep voice. In “ The Hands of God” by Deborah Rudacille, she opposes the facts of gender being nurtured by saying “ Nature fashioned human beings whose sense of self is at war with their flesh, or whos gender falls in between the poles of male and female (461). Rudacille explains further with saying that there are children who have certain female genitalia but are convinced they are boys, or a boy who has a “vagina” and undoubtedly knows he is a boy. 461) We know what sex we should be before conception. In that aspect, gender is a natural knowledge. Gender can’t be learned in the fact that children take an androgynous perspective to life until they reach a certain age. Most children do not see each other as male or female until the age of 6 or 7. (Devor 384)
I can remember being about 5 years old when my brother came home with an earring in his ear. It was 1990 and young men were going through another cultural change. I recall asking my mother if I had a sister now instead of a brother. Young Children assosciate gender with appearance. Devor 385) When it comes to playing children assume that children are both effeminate and masculine. When it comes to gender being a natural choice, Deborah Rudacille disagrees by saying “Gender is a cultural construction and that the body is a text upon which individuals are free to inscribe their fender of choice” (466). In essence we are all born the same, Female. And we take it upon ourselves to choose through society’s conformities if we want to be a female or male. Last body paragraph is about the teachings from society so write it please lol And write out your conclusion paragraph.