As the saying goes to every start there is an end. My mother and i have a bond like no other she is like my bes friend. I was born in the eighties where mannerism was an important thing. It is not like in today’s society, where you can approach an elderly person the way you feel like. I was brought up by a single parent. It was back in jamaica ,the third largest carribbean,island. It gain it’s independence in 1962. We were once ruled by england,things according to the elders were better. We have fourteen parishes,with st . catherine the largest,six heroes and one heroine.
We are located ninty miles from cuba. Growing up i was too young to understand why my all my friends had a dad and i didn’t. It was sometime later on in life i that i found out why. I could remember ,my mother working real hard to make too ends meet. I remember all this like it was yesterday ,she suffered scrutiny from bystanders,who was looking merely to judge her. Even though here education was shortned,due to the fact she had me at the age of sixteen. She made it her priority that i attended school,i could remember her walking with me to school.
It was sad to say i went to school more often than my friends who had a stable home. She instill some true values in me as a youngster,i didn,t had the luxury of toys either. I use to get in trouble alot ,in the past. I think it was because that father figure wasn’t there,so i grew a sense of hatred and rebellion. Well back in those days parents could disciplined a child. It’s no like today where parents can get in trouble if they discipline there child. It is not like she wasn’t doing a good job in nurturing me,she was. I was yarning for a dad, i remembered when my mom take me to visit his parents.
I will never forget that day,my great grandma embrass her,it was the first time i see her cry. I think i was tears of being alone no tower of strength or support. Walking miles and miles from primary school each day for lunch wasn’t easy. I couldn’t figure out why ,since all my friends either take lunch to school or had money to buy lunch. As a result some day i take it up on myself not to go home for lunch. Even though truth be told mother would be home waiting patiently on me to disobey her rule. I learned real fast to contend with the little she had to give to me,life was easy either .
I remember going to the farmer to cover peas hole as farming was our major means of survival. Those were the days and even if i didnt want to go i had to went. My mother was playing the role of a dad and a mother. It’s not like my dad had died he was alive and well. However as i grew up to realised he was too scared to play his role,that of a father. No home should be without both parents,a man is always going to play a pivotal role in the home. Every young man need a father figure at some point in there life. The world can be unkind to a youngster needing a father figure.
I had to make wise decisions from a tender age,distingishing between good and bad. Prayer was also a key element in my life growing up,i had to get on my knees every night and pray. I may not understand at that time its importance but as i get older everything became clearer. My mom is what allowed me to be the individual i am today,its because she was determine and focus on my well being. I will always ask the question how she did it i know it wasn’t easy either. I remember going with her to kingston to sell produce from the farm in the market.
It was a rough task,sometime she would loose her coconuts ,plantain and bananas to thief. I could remember hearing gun shots or just seeing individuals fighting in the streets. Those were the days,she would always say go to school and learn. she always want what best for me,working hard was a must for her. cooking on a coal stove was the norm,we could afford a gas stove. Television wasn’t around well not at my home,my mom struggled alot it was evident. Life is what it is there are something we won’t understand ,the struggles my mom facing was the same thing most jamaican mothers where facing.
Females having five kids for five different guys,people outside the situation would be judgemental. Until someone is actually faced or been placed in an situation then you will understand the riguors of a single parent. I remember my mother going to bed without food so that i can eat,thats sad but she had to do it. Lots of parents wouldn’t do that but i’m thankful that i had a mother with a heart. There are so many kids get abandon just because the mother can’t bare the burden alone to support or run a home on her own. Then on the other hand you have a woman like my mother who stuck it out.
She managed to raise five kids on her own,with little help from the state. Few jamaican can support my view that most homes are ran by a single parent. It can be a man or a woman,but majority of the times it is a woman playing the role of mother and father in the home. Women maybe emotional but they are better planner than men,my mom who am proud of went on to become a nurse. It takes determination,ambition beats condition. We maybe place in horrible condition while growing up,but at the end of a tunnel there is light. Hard work ,with a positive attitude are the keys to success…